The Older Picky Eater: Even Michael Pollan Has One!

This is a guest post by Jill Castle, RD.

Everyone is talking about picky eating, but the frustration isn’t about toddlers alone. Picky eating is prevalent in elementary and middle school, and even high school. It’s not uncommon to see nine and ten year-olds bringing the same lunch to school everyday, shying away from the lunch line because it is too loaded with “yucky” food. Or the tweener who doesn’t spend the night at friends’ houses because she’s not sure she can eat there.

When older kids are still picky, it’s important to recognize that there may be more to the story. Picky eating at age three is expected and part of the normal continuum of childhood developmental, but picky eating at the age of ten or fourteen is not.

As a young child, Pete would only eat certain foods, prepared in a certain way. If his mom messed up or tried to branch out, he wouldn’t eat. He really wouldn’t eat. Twenty years ago, his food limits and picky eating were never connected to his learning difficulties, his limited wardrobe (soft clothing only), or his sensitivities to the way things appeared and felt to the touch. Today, Pete has a wonderfully wide diet due to years of integrated therapy to address his overall sensitivities, which increased his willingness to try new foods.

Callie, now twelve years old, was born prematurely and had breathing tubes in her mouth to help her breathe. She was fed through a vein in her arm because her tummy wasn’t ready for food. She didn’t get to eat through her mouth for a long time. Today, Callie has challenges with eating. The process of tasting, chewing, and swallowing is tedious and not particularly enjoyable for her. She is often not interested or motivated to eat. Her family wonders if her early life experiences contributed to her current eating problems.

The reality is that many parents (even dietitians, doctors, chefs and foodies) deal with the older picky eater on a regular basis.

Even Michael Pollan has a picky eater! He described his fourteen-year-old son Isaac as a picky eater in a June article in Cooking Light. “He’s picky, incredibly limited in what he will eat,” says Pollan. His son, Isaac agrees, “I really wish I wasn’t as picky an eater. I can smell the smallest things that nobody else seems to notice.”

It’s estimated that one in twenty kids up to age ten are picky eaters. Called “problem feeders” in the scientific world, these children refuse to eat, or eat a very limited number of selected foods. Super-selective eaters may have underlying sensory, mechanical or medical conditions, while others may have behavioral problems. Still other kids may have learned that being “picky” is how to get the foods they want. Bottom line: there may be a host of reasons why the older child or teen is still picky.

The old advice, “Just wait it out—the child will eventually eat!” may not work with older picky eaters, especially if there is more to the story. Waiting for a problem feeder to eat may make the problem worse, causing nutrient deficiencies or worsening the dynamic at the meal table.

Often, parents and healthcare providers don’t take the time to look back at the origin of picky eating and try to unlock the mystery. Yet, knowing why a child is picky helps enormously with getting the right help to move forward with eating.

Additionally, coping strategies used by families to deal with the older picky eater often serve to complicate matters more. For example, serving picky eaters what they will eat (called catering) or pressuring a child to eat certain foods when he is unwilling may reinforce picky eating or make it worse. These common tendencies promote two scenarios: a child with a narrow diet lacking in adequate calories and nutrients, or further distress and disinterest in food.

If you have an older child who is still a picky eater, I encourage you to dig deeper into the potential reasons for this ongoing issue. An underlying medical condition may exist such as eosinophilic esophagitis (EoE), silent reflux or occlusive adenoids and tonsils (if you can’t swallow comfortably, it turns off the desire to eat). Your child or teen may need feeding therapy to help desensitize textures, smells or taste sensitivities, while broadening food variety. It may also help to learn about feeding interactions at the meal table and how to optimize a positive environment for eating.

The good news is that older picky eaters can overcome their pickiness and like a variety of food with proper help and patience. Enlist help if your child’s eating is a struggle or not progressing with new foods.

Jill Castle is a registered dietitian, mom of 4, and creator of Just the Right Byte. She is co-creator of the Fearless Feeding Community and co-author of the book Fearless Feeding: How to Raise Healthy Eaters from High Chair to High School. You can find more about Jill Castle.

  • Melanie Potock

    Fabulous article Jill! I have 5 kids on my caseload right now between the ages of 6 and 14. I recently treated a teen who “only at fruits and veggies” and his pediatrician couldn’t see the problem. Socially, he was having a hard time! He wanted to try pizza and a hamburger with his friends, but he gagged whenever he did it on his own. HE was the one who asked for my help and boy, did he make fast progress! I also see kids who have developed food allergies to their preferred foods and now, they are really in a bind. Imagine being a tween/teen and HAVE to start eating new foods – ones that you never were willing to eat before. It’s scary and often uncomfortable. Thank you for bringing this topic to light – truly appreciate it! Will share on My Munch Bug facebook page too!

  • Monika

    That’s just one of the side effects of pampering our kids. They can yell at the parents without being spanked for it, they can call them the most vile swear words, all a parent is supposed to do is put them in a corner. But this post isn’t about spanking, it’s about how easy kids have it nowadays, even raising a voice to a badly behaving child is not welcome. They are supposed to be loved, talked to in a gentle manner, hugged a lot, and in return the parents get yelled at, kicked, slapped and because of this mealtimes turn into a circus. Yes, we have kids, my 6 months old eats all vegs and asks for more, while the 8 year old boy who was used to junk food when he was a toddler, even 3 years after the change of diet, fusses at the plate, he will be eating dinner for 2 hours if it’s anything else than Kraft’s mac n cheese, hot dogs without buns or sweets. Since those were banned from our house, each mealtime is a horror show, even if we encourage him to make faces on the plate from vegs, use butter, dressing, white sauce, bread crumbs with butter, he will just abhor everything. One other thing, as my mom pointed out it shouldn’t be called ‘picky’ eating, as it has a somewhat good connotation, it should be called ‘fussy’ eating. It used to be easy, you got your dinner and you ate it, if you didnt, you went hungry. Now if a child won’t eat dinner, people will tell you your cruel if the child goes hungry.

    • reality

      My oldest, now grown, is a selective eater. He would go without eating an entire day if there wasn’t food that he liked available. He doesn’t choose to be this way. Parents that judge other parents truly have not experienced this with a child. I was thankful that his doctor understood it & was supportive. He was always normal weight for his size.

  • EPBklyn

    Hi, My 13 year old daughter still eats no fruit or vegetables and very limited carbs and only chicken nuggets for meat. I give her a vitamin and she is a healthy weight but I am concerned. She is not away at sleep away camp and they called me because they are very concerned about her eating habits and the fact that she doesn’t consume that many calories overall. My son has sensory processing issues so I know what that looks like and I don’t think that is her issue. It is more psychological. I want to find a food therapist for her but most people seem to only treat babies or young children. We live in New York City and I am trying to find someone who can help her. Can you – or anyone – recommend someone or a source for a reference? Thank you

    • marion roaman

      Hi EPBklyn, I am a health coach living in NYC. I work with teens dealing with similar issues. If you are still looking for help, please do not hesitate to reach out. All the best to you and your family.

      • Kelly A. Kleppin

        What type of therapist or credentials should I look for when needing help with my 11 year old picky eater? I’m in Orlando, FL.